Healing From Narcissistic Abuse

Healing From Narcissistic Abuse

Narcissists will:

  • Initially charm and love bomb you

  • Isolate you from all sources of support

  • Hurt you in the most devastating ways possible

  • Destroy your reputation

  • Take your self esteem, freedom, peace of mind, ambition, money, dreams, health and more

  • Gaslight you 

  • Play the victim

  • Get revenge

  • Instill fear in you to ensure your obedience and submission

  • Have absolutely no remorse about what they do - rather they will double down and justify it

  • As they lose control over you they will adapt to controlling what other people think of you

Healing from narcissistic abuse IS ABSOLUTELY POSSIBLE. 

Whether it is a familial (spousal, parental, sibling, adolescent or adult child) or workplace relationship, narcissistic abuse can be incredibly controlling, abusive, manipulative, traumatizing, belittling and can emotionally and psychologically annihilate you. Narcissistic abuse when employed in divorce and child custody cases can be devastating. Narcissists will not hesitate to manipulate the children to cause harm and “win” at all costs. Please note that I do not take on cases where there is not a custody order in place.

However, the patterns of narcissists are very consistent and once you learn to not only identify them, but also anticipate them, you can begin to protect yourself from further abuse and manipulation. In therapy, I incorporate EMDR to dissolve the trauma, trauma bonding and learned responses to enable you to take back both your power and your sense of self.

The narcissist’s drug of choice is control - control over your life, your peace of mind or lack thereof, your health, your mental health, your finances, your reputation… the list goes on. Once they’ve gotten their hooks into you they have no intention of letting go because that sense of power is so intoxicating - and because they have such a fragile sense of self. It is on you to learn how to free yourself and NEVER get hooked again. Along with healing the damage they have inflicted, it is critical that you learn how to change your energy so they cannot plug into you and control you.

One of the most important support systems I provide when healing from narcissistic abuse is text support during the first two weeks of starting therapy. This is essential in the early stages of learning how to protect yourself from the narcissist, how to identify and avoid the traps and manipulation and how to start feeling safe.

Frequently Asked Questions

  • Narcissistic Abuse is a form of emotional and psychological abuse primarily inflicted by someone with narcissistic tendencies or a narcissistic personality disorder. It can include manipulation, gaslighting, verbal abuse, emotional blackmail, and other tactics to control and belittle the victim.

  • Common signs include feeling constantly belittled or demeaned, walking on eggshells around the abuser, experiencing severe self-doubt, and feeling isolated from friends and family. If you recognize these patterns in your relationship, it may be time to seek professional help.

  • I offer a range of therapy options tailored to heal the trauma, anxiety, and depression resulting from Narcissistic Abuse, focusing on mind-body healing interventions. My approach includes EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and neurotransmitter repair, among other methods, to address the complex effects of abuse on both the mind and body. These therapies are designed to work together to help you recover from trauma and rebuild your sense of self, providing a holistic path to healing and well-being.

  • Therapy can provide you with the tools to understand and process your experiences, rebuild your self-esteem, and develop strategies for healing and moving forward. It offers a safe space to express your feelings and start the journey toward reclaiming your life.

  • Absolutely. Confidentiality is a cornerstone of our practice. Everything discussed in therapy remains private, except in rare circumstances where disclosure is required by law (e.g., threats of harm to oneself or others).

  • The duration of therapy varies depending on the individual's needs and goals. Some see improvements within a few months, while others may engage in therapy for longer periods. We regularly assess progress and adjust our approach as needed.

  • You can schedule an appointment by calling our office, sending an email, or filling out the contact form on our website. I offer a free initial consultation to discuss your needs and how I can help.

About Me

Francesca Rossellini, LAMFT, PhD

With over two decades of experience in mind-body healing and a keen interest in neuroscience, I focus on treating anxiety, depression, and their physical impacts through a unique approach that includes neurotransmitter assessment. My background in Metaphysics, Marriage and Family Therapy, EMDR, and orthomolecular psychiatry enriches my practice. I'm also the author of 'The No Bullshit Way to Heal,' a testament to my straightforward, effective therapy methods. My philosophy? Living truthfully is key to emotional and physical well-being, leading not only to recovery but also to a life filled with energy, joy, peace, and abundance.

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